This question was bugging my thoughts these past few days. I'm asking myself how will you know when you've had enough? Enough of the relationship that isnt working, enough of the dramas in life, enough of the things that doesn't make you happy anymore. Is it when the other person has finally gone too far ? Should we wait until they do something major before you decide to leave? Leave after you realize the extent of emotional abuse? Do we need to set boundaries in a relationship and if our partner reached our limits then that’s the time to leave them behind? I am a person who trust people so easily and forgive them in an instant, but sometimes I ask myself how will I stop forgiving a person that always do the same mistakes again and again? This is where its gets confusing. When will I ever know to learn how stop forgiving a person…is there an end point for forgiveness? So how do you know when to stay and when to walk away? Is it if you often find yourself in a position where you need to defend the other person from yourself even you know he/she is wrong just to forgive him/her and work things out? Sometimes you might justify their mistreatment because they try to make you feel like you’re the “wrong one” or the “crazy one.” There came a point when I realized that people who truly respected me would encourage me to grow; but they wouldn’t let my weaknesses become an excuse to intimidate me. But when is the time you have to end it because you’re fed up of the wrong things that people did to you? How will I come to know that I’ve had enough?
You need to be a member of MyEnglishClub to add comments!
Comments
fire_n_ice, one will come to know when its too much...coz u can feel it, and when it always happens every time...same mistakes again and again. and that guy ur talking to? he only loves himself...anyways..thanks for the comment sir. have a nice day ahead.
Ha Nguyen, thank you so much...its my pleasure to reply you as you commented on my blog :D have a nice day!
It was just my thinking translated from Vietnamese to English so it's no wonder you haven't heard of it, but yeah, you got it, basically it's a patience-based limit set by you :D Previously I did some changes in my settings, which was why my action of commenting wasn't listed in your latest activity, so it wasn't your fault my comment went unnoticed. In fact, I'm glad I checked out the latest activities on the main page (which I don't always do) and got to know you replied me :) I didn't ask for it but still thanks for sharing the "backstage" story of your absence and the incident with the main chat :D Have beautiful days ahead, MaYa!
Ha Nguyen, limited forgiveness? never heard of it before but i think i should know how to do this thing...heheh...maybe it will work for me, and i just hope that it wil work and i'l get used to it..thanks for your comments. btw, sorry for the late reply as i am too busy in my real world so im not online these past few days. i just came awhile ago and i was surprised to see that im supended for few hours on the main chat evn when im not coming online for almost 10days...lolz! anyways, god bless! :D
First of all, I must say this is a very well-written blog! The title got my attention and I read the blog with interest.
Most of us have been in this situation where we're not sure if forgiving is the right thing to do, I believe. To my thinking, opportunities should be given, but limitedly only, for it's very likely that someone who fail to keep his/her words continually doesn't take the relationship seriously and that means there's no point in taking him/her back time after time. Yes, it depends on how patient you are, too, so this is like a test of patience. :D
I did read some of the answers offered by other members and found Vinne's one quite profound; seeing your reply to the answer makes me believe you've already known how to handle the case well. :)
Thanks a lot for sharing and please keep up writing, MaYa!
Mr. Bob, hello sir! i just hope i really know the answer for my question. thank you for your comments sir. god bless! :D
Estanis, im not that too young as u think :D but i suffered too much i think. how cant i forgive someone that is so close to me? and i really dont know how to stop forgiving even that person hurts me many times. thanks for the comment...god bless!
I suspect you're already too young to keep on suffering like this, anyway regardless of your age, you should look for your own happyness. Perhaps you have forgiven enough.
Shan sis, my intuition always deceive me, i always use my heart when it comes to relationship thats why i always ended up hurting. i remembered friends told me to use my brain if its about love but this is me..... i never use my mind when it comes to my love even if i want to, coz i cant help it :( thanks for the comments sis, im looking forward to see you over the main :D
-
1
-
2
-
3
-
4
of 4 Next