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How to beat stress? That's the question, right? Recently I posted here discussion on this topic and I was really very excited to see so many people participating and sharing own experiences. On the basis of it, I decided to write this blog, which will be focused on                                                                   Y   O   U   R

Whether you like it or not stress is a part of our life and I would say it has always been here. Looking back into the ancient times and the way people lived in the past, I believe they were also stressed and it's hard to compare if less or more. Many disseases weren't possible to cure and relatives had to watch their closest ones dying more frequently than we do, which I find very stressing but people got used to it with knowing that only the fittest could survive. People didn't have such knowledge, didn't know what is lightening, thunder - so don't you think that even common thunderstorm could stress them as they had no idea what was behind it? Besides there were more wars and it is pretty clear that every was brings stress into people's life.

On the contrarery we are living in modern hectic era and stress is still here, just there are different sources that cause it in comparison to the medieval times. I think the most common problem is stress related to our failure. Just imagine - exams around the corner - oh myyy what if I fail, what am I going to do?!! It will be the end, parents will not survive it!! I bet many of you know this and went through this. Then you graduate and ooppss.. here we go - another stress. DAMN, I can't get a job!! They want experienced people. What am I going to do? Ufff.. finally you got job - but you have no partner. Time is flying, you are alone and don't know where to find somebody. Suddenly, problems at work occured, your new manager is so bossy and you can't stand it!!! Yuppeee... you succeeded and found a partner, you are in love and everything is better. Anyway, you can't leave your job because you need money to save it for your future, right? What if you quit but won't find any good jog? I could continue like this.. but honestly I better won't - don't want to make you.. oopsss.. stressed!

Why is this topic so important? Well, I am sure that most of you know that stress is responsible for many serious health problems such as heart attack, cancer or depression, which is pretty alarming as it is about the quality of our life and as it might lead to our death.

In my opinion the first and the most importatnt step is to realize that we are stressed. Many people overlook the symptoms and take stressful siatuations as a part of their life, so many people live under the pressure as they got used to it but this is very, very dangerous. Usually the best observers are the people around us - our family members, friends and in such situations they should be sincere with us. They should come to us and ask: "Hey ....look, nothing against but lately you seem to be very tensed. Is anything wrong?" Honestly - such people should be awarded with the golden medals because they care, they want to give us their hand and we should do the same for others.. such exchange carring therapy should be common, don't you think?

So the first important thing is to be able to RECOGNIZE YOU ARE STRESSED.

In my discussion I asked you, what do you do, when you are stressed, so here are some of the answers:

- praying and if it doesn't help, pray more,

- eating sweets to overcome it,

- devoting myself fully to my hobbies and disconect myself from the rest of the world,

- crying alone, hidden from everybody.

- staying alone, being quiet and just with myself,

- doing nothing, let it control me,

- drinking vodka,

- trying to solve the problem, which stress me…

Well, none of them is for example my case because when I am stressed I am pretty dangerous as I freak out, I am very moody and sensitive. I would say this is very individual because there are more than 100 people out there with more than 100 opinions. Anyway, as we are already stressed and we do our best to get rid of it, what can really help us?

I am convinced that we all can make it, we all can kill stress, which is trying to control us. It is very individual because, what works on you, doesn't have to work on somebody else, however there are some basic rules we should follow to reduce stress (some of them are taken from our discussion, some of them are mine):

- get enough sleep (at least 7 hours + go to bed earlier in case you have problems to fall asleep),

- eat regularly, at least three times a day, avoid junk food and overeating,

- avoid drinking too much alcohol or taking drugs,

- start MOVING - many people are passive but do believe me that by moving – no matter if you want to run, work out, dance or do kickbox - such activities start chemical process in your body and the final effect - releasing of the endorphins – hormones of happiness, will help you to feel much more better, morevoer when you move you also kill all the negative energy inside of you,

- cry - just let your emotions go because it might make you feel released,

- focus on your hobbies - make time and try to get involved with your hobbies you love and feel free to get lost in your own world for several hours,

- listen to music, choose a genre - which makes you calm and relaxed, no matter if it is classical music or chillstep,

- TALK with your friends, relatives about your problems - this depends of course on your personality because it is hard to force an introvert to share their problems but the more you talk, the more you will feel released and less stressed and one never knows, who of your friends can help you or give you tips to solve the problem, which stress you..

Well.. I hope that some of the tips were useful, I hope that this blog was little bit helpful and even though I would like to wish you NO STRESS, which is a bit unrealistic, I will better say:

Don't let stress control you, better learn to control it ;-)

The pictures were taken from:

http://www.faithtechnologies.com/blog/blog_entries/stress-tips-for-the-sandwich-generation/

http://ordinaryquotes.com/p/anxiety-quotes-and-sayings