Thanks Marik and Tawfeeq for your good comments. I agree with you. A third effect of sudden wealth is emotional. People who acquire huge amounts of cash very quickly can experience many negative emotions, such as fear,shame,guilt,and anxiety. These feelings can lead to makingbad decisions.How you get the money can also contribute to negative feelings. If someone dies and leaves you a fortune, the relationship you had with that person can make things more complicated. If you loved him,you may feel sadness.If you never visited her, you may feel guilty. If you didn`t get along, you may feel uncomfortable. And none of these feelings will make you happy.So if sudden wealth buys just as much stress as it does happiness, what good is it?Probably not much,unless you are very sick and it buys you needed health care. Or you are very poor and it provides you with food and shelter. For most of the rest of us, people who are getting along okay without it, sudden wealth is often more trouble than it`s worth.
In order to understand , what much money means to me? To tell correct answer , at first ,I should exam lives of my rich friends. Believe me they live in mess and disorder lives . Their cell phones cannot stop ringing , they busy all the time .They cannot feel blessing of their food or drink .most of them are ill or sick ,all that because of money . So ,I prefer to live as I live now .The life is too short , I should be content. Many thanks .
Shanaz, you are right, a happy medium is the best option in everything and money is not an exception. When there is a lack of something or something is in too large amount it always entails unpleasant or even dangerous consequences. Nature is formed so and human is a part of this Nature. A man will be happy only if it will have everything in enough amount, not more and not less. As I already said, money is not an exception.
thanks Marik again for your comment. The second problem is that ,sudden wealth can also affect our social relationships.Interestingly, sudden wealth and the sudden lose of money can have quite similar effects.It`s the dramatic change in circumstances that cause the problems.In the case of sudden wealth, too many other people want something from their newly rich friend or relative.And they may not understand the stress the rich person is experiencing ,thinking,"oh,too bad.I wish I had your problems.'Most ppl get a lot of pleasure from being with other ppl,but a sudden change in your financial picture can make you feel alone. If you move because of changing circumstances,you won`t have your usual source of support.That expensive house on a private island somewhere may not be quite as wonderful as it sounds if no one is with you.
Shanaz, I thoroughly agree with you. It's sort of addiction and money is like drugs - the more you receive the more you need (or you think that you need); the far your 'dose' is increasing the less pleasure you feel. People can off the hook only if they will control desires of their body and do not what they would like but what they should.
Thanks Marik for your comment . your point of view is very good. As you know, the first it affects how our brains work,at least for a while.sure, if you give someone money,there will be an immediate effect on his brain, similar to the way his brain respond to food or medication.But the pleasure goes away quickly.similarly,ppl think they will enjoy something they buy much longer than they actually do.The problem is that our brains get used to positive experiences. In the begining ,when we get the money ,our brain identifies it as pleasure.Then that feeling wears off. the same thing happens when we spend the money on something we think we really want.And to get the same amount of pleasure the next time, we need to buy something even bigger and better. It`s not a surprise that many ppl who acquire a lot of money they didn`t expect, lose it all whithin a few years.
Money spoil a man and too much money spoil a man much more. But, I reckon that it depends from a man itself. If a man live by money and for money, of course, a large amount of money, especially sudden and easy, will damage its mind. And if a man try to live not for money but for people, even if only for the closest, such big pile of money could be a tool for a charity, for example. It sounds sadly, but nowadays too many people refer to the first type.
Thanks dear Anele for your commend.I agrre with you. But there are som people who don`t really care about where the money comes from , as long as it comes, because they say the money will solve all their problems.
I know.It doesn`t make sense, who would believe that an enormous amount of cash would be hard t handle?but sudden money is not always a good thing. It`s easy to forget that a large quantity of money can have several destructive effects on our lives.
The reality is that people who acquire a sudden fortune, whether they earn it or inherit it, experience a lot of stress.what do you think about this issue?
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Thanks Marik and Tawfeeq for your good comments. I agree with you. A third effect of sudden wealth is emotional. People who acquire huge amounts of cash very quickly can experience many negative emotions, such as fear,shame,guilt,and anxiety. These feelings can lead to makingbad decisions.How you get the money can also contribute to negative feelings. If someone dies and leaves you a fortune, the relationship you had with that person can make things more complicated. If you loved him,you may feel sadness.If you never visited her, you may feel guilty. If you didn`t get along, you may feel uncomfortable. And none of these feelings will make you happy.So if sudden wealth buys just as much stress as it does happiness, what good is it?Probably not much,unless you are very sick and it buys you needed health care. Or you are very poor and it provides you with food and shelter. For most of the rest of us, people who are getting along okay without it, sudden wealth is often more trouble than it`s worth.
In order to understand , what much money means to me? To tell correct answer , at first ,I should exam lives of my rich friends. Believe me they live in mess and disorder lives . Their cell phones cannot stop ringing , they busy all the time .They cannot feel blessing of their food or drink .most of them are ill or sick ,all that because of money .
So ,I prefer to live as I live now .The life is too short , I should be content.
Many thanks .
Shanaz, you are right, a happy medium is the best option in everything and money is not an exception. When there is a lack of something or something is in too large amount it always entails unpleasant or even dangerous consequences. Nature is formed so and human is a part of this Nature. A man will be happy only if it will have everything in enough amount, not more and not less. As I already said, money is not an exception.
thanks Marik again for your comment. The second problem is that ,sudden wealth can also affect our social relationships.Interestingly, sudden wealth and the sudden lose of money can have quite similar effects.It`s the dramatic change in circumstances that cause the problems.In the case of sudden wealth, too many other people want something from their newly rich friend or relative.And they may not understand the stress the rich person is experiencing ,thinking,"oh,too bad.I wish I had your problems.'Most ppl get a lot of pleasure from being with other ppl,but a sudden change in your financial picture can make you feel alone. If you move because of changing circumstances,you won`t have your usual source of support.That expensive house on a private island somewhere may not be quite as wonderful as it sounds if no one is with you.
Shanaz, I thoroughly agree with you. It's sort of addiction and money is like drugs - the more you receive the more you need (or you think that you need); the far your 'dose' is increasing the less pleasure you feel. People can off the hook only if they will control desires of their body and do not what they would like but what they should.
Thanks Marik for your comment . your point of view is very good. As you know, the first it affects how our brains work,at least for a while.sure, if you give someone money,there will be an immediate effect on his brain, similar to the way his brain respond to food or medication.But the pleasure goes away quickly.similarly,ppl think they will enjoy something they buy much longer than they actually do.The problem is that our brains get used to positive experiences. In the begining ,when we get the money ,our brain identifies it as pleasure.Then that feeling wears off. the same thing happens when we spend the money on something we think we really want.And to get the same amount of pleasure the next time, we need to buy something even bigger and better. It`s not a surprise that many ppl who acquire a lot of money they didn`t expect, lose it all whithin a few years.
Money spoil a man and too much money spoil a man much more. But, I reckon that it depends from a man itself. If a man live by money and for money, of course, a large amount of money, especially sudden and easy, will damage its mind. And if a man try to live not for money but for people, even if only for the closest, such big pile of money could be a tool for a charity, for example. It sounds sadly, but nowadays too many people refer to the first type.
Thanks dear Anele for your commend.I agrre with you. But there are som people who don`t really care about where the money comes from , as long as it comes, because they say the money will solve all their problems.
I know.It doesn`t make sense, who would believe that an enormous amount of cash would be hard t handle?but sudden money is not always a good thing. It`s easy to forget that a large quantity of money can have several destructive effects on our lives.
The reality is that people who acquire a sudden fortune, whether they earn it or inherit it, experience a lot of stress.what do you think about this issue?