Good afternoon.
The reason for typing this blog is a very tragic one. A very close member of my family died today. Besides all feelings of sorrows and sadness that we all had and have and will have inside, I came to the thought that everything must be in time in our life.
How come that people who were very dearest to us heard sweet and warm words not as often as it should be? And only when we lose them physically without any change of returning back to this world, we realize that we could do this and that but now it's too late.
And there it is...this part of your family that is lying in the coffin with a gentle smile around flowers and you can't do anything now, just feel regret and cry.
I was shocked that the kid of this person, an young man in his 25 years was crying like a baby near this coffin. Why didn't we tell our close and dear people IN TIME that we love them, we care about them? We only consume what other people give us and think that it is normal. I'm not asking to give everything you have to this world. But a feeling of one family is a sacred one and is on the top of all values in this world.
I know that I'ma person who is seeking happiness inside myself and not in other people but nevertheless my family is the most important part of myself. If to confess, I have hard relations with my own mother but today she told me one phrase when we were standing by the coffin. She told me "Don't cry, I haven't died yet".
In this life everything must be in time. Words of love and care - in time, words of friendship and help - in time. Sharing good emotions, loyalty and devotion - in time...
As a religious person, I know that she went to a better world than we have and she'll be praying God to make our life better and forgive us for all sins we made. But the feeling of the empty place is pressing very hard now. And I was late in my words and deeds...
I want to tell this world that write, call and tell your family that you value and love them right now.
Because tomorrow may be late...
Rest in peace, my second mama. I will always remember you.
Thank you for your attention. HB.
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Dear Honey bee,
I had not seen this blog when i was talking with you in the chat room. I am so so sorry. I hope you forgive me for my humorous comments. You are right my words are not in time. But ...
Share me in your sorrows about your relatives passing away. And stick with your lovely mother and kiss her for yourself and for me too. I lost my mother few years ago when I was 36 but I was crying for her like a baby. Your words remembered me those days. I wish your mother many years of life in healthy. God bless her and you.
yours friendly,
Afshin
Thanks for your kind words.
Andreaa, of course I'll see her :) but in another world.
REE, nice poem, thanks.
Barbare, we need to learn not only professional things, but I'd suggest a new subject "How to make people happy: practical guidance for life" :)
Mr.Bob, May, thanks :-*
The tide recedes but leaves behind
bright seashells on the sand.
The sun goes down, but gentle
warmth still lingers on the land.
The music stops, and yet it echoes
on in sweet refrains.....
For every joy that passes,
something beautiful remains.
.... Anonymous Author...
May she rest in Peace.
It is sad but true, we don't appreciate those we love sometimes until it is too late. We take for granted that they will always be there because we can't imagine life without them. It has been some time now since I lost my parents and I always think about missed opportunities when I might have been able to say I love you, but missed a chance. I'm so happy that I did get to tell them how I felt, just wish I had lived closer instead of 11 hours driving distance.
I'm sorry for your loss HB and I hope that you can apply the lesson to your own mother while you still have her. Don't let her slip away without doing what must be done to get your relationship back to where it was before you had problems. We only have one mother and when she has gone to God, she is gone.
Pedro, thanks a lot. I will do it.
MaYa, I agree with your quote. Thanks for sharing.
We dont have to waste time not to tell our loved ones that we love them so much, make them feel that we love them everyday before its too late. regrets wont take back the things you've lost.
Spend time with those you love. One of these days you will say either, " i wish i had" or "im glad i did." --zig ziglar
Hey Honey, I'm sorry for your lost, I know we don't know too much each other but I'll take the risk of advicing you by saying that you should build a stronger relation with your mom, it's something you won't regret. Be strong honey!! Hugs.
Thank you for your kind words.
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