Being Egocentric!

Niloo July 29, 2015 11:05

Thanks all for your comments....

I learned a lot from you... As I understood from your comments, and if I'm not mistaken, being egocentric has two aspects: One of its meanings is: having self-confidence and value in yourself and your abilities and the other meaning is just believe in yourself and abilities and not others and being self-important. And, as all might be agree, the first meaning is the good aspect of being egocentric and the second one shows disapproval.

Anyway, thanks a lot for your useful comments...^_^

Alberto Navarro Nuño July 28, 2015 20:41

I am agree with this statement, but I think it has to there is a balance, anything cannot move on if there is not peace in each people.. Great question!

Arif July 28, 2015 16:48

Practical experience says that egocentric is an anti-love or anti-relation virus which widens the gap, but a question is what kind of love, legal love or illegal love? Legal love implies the most close ones such as siblings, relatives neighbors, people in general etc. While illegal love implies love between different genders (from our aspect). Most of time, it has been seen that people are too humble with ill-legal love whereas too egoist while dealing with legal love.

When loving self goes to that extent where confessing truth or admitting own fault publicly makes us feel ashamed. Then resultantly we deny them or blind to them can be said "egocentric". Self care is not egocentric if intention of caring self is for family or others who wish our best health.

Mohammad July 28, 2015 14:27

I think loving ourselves doesn't have any conflict with NOT being egocentric. As a matter of fact, I believe that I should love myself because, my body, my soul, and totally my life are all gifts from God and therefore I should take care of them and keep them in the bast way.

BUT, " I love myself " must not be regarded and meant that I love only myself. Thus my "valuable things" are valuable as well as others and I must respect to other rights as well as mine. I believe that egocentric adjective is absolutely not admirable.

*** What is the definition of " Egocentric " ?

If our respectability to our own rights was more than our respectability to other rights, then it would mean "selfishness" (egocentric), and if that relation was vice versa, then means " sacrifice " (e.g. giving our umbrella to others in a rainy weather) which is so admirable. The case that the relation would be equivalent is also nice and admirable. I recommend first myself and then others to be in the next and third group.

Also we can satisfy all people around us EXCEPT in two cases:

1- Our expectation would be illegal or on the other word, our wants would be more than our rights.

2- The person, who we want to be satisfied, wants to abuse or in other meaning s/he is not contented to his/her own rights.

So as a result from my point of view, we should always (not sometimes) love ourselves and must never (not sometimes) be an egocentric person and as it can be seen they don't have any conflict with each other.

thanks for sharing your nice blog. cheers

Arif July 27, 2015 5:24

In order to ascertain egocentric, we need to know cultures, customs, and religion of other, as sometimes, shyness, modesty and hesitation which developed due to local culture/customs considers "egocentric".

setareh July 27, 2015 5:04

I do agree with Alice that if we love ourselves only for the sake of our own self what a small world we would have. Sometimes we love ourselves because we are good daughters or good wives or good mothers. I think sign of love for ourselves is to forgive our mistakes, accept ourselves the way we are.

Mishaikh July 27, 2015 4:54

Niloo:
Being egocentric is okay if it is in balance. I have number of times received remarks that if a person is egocentric, he/she does not love any one but him/herself. I always reply "no this is not the case, they do love but they do not like to be unnecessarily governed by their lover."

They over react if they try to overpower others'ego. So this is a matter of balance.

Alice E. July 27, 2015 2:31

It's a good start I think, if you love yourself well enough then you have a lot of love in you to share to others. It is the love we give around us that makes the love for ourselves meaningful otherwise if we only love ourselves for the sake of ourselves alone then what a small life it would be! :)

Niloo July 26, 2015 20:14

wow! Mishaikh! what a sentence... I saw your profile...

It was awesome...

Niloo July 26, 2015 20:12

Really Mishaikh? and is it good?

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