Hello members
I am sure, nobody will deny the beauty of this quotation "Be yourself", but whenever jealousy grows in us, we put aside all moral lessons and begin degrating others. If we start criticizing envious people, there will be no difference left between them and us. So let's talk about its solutions, agree?. To the best of my humble observation, there are two methods of remedying jealousy. One method has been extracted from Islamic viewpoints and other is general and anyone can apply it.
This remedy for muslim brothers and sisters is just reminder
When the jealousy begins growing that brings about gradual diminution of our faith in Almighty Allah as The Creator of everything. As it is He Who bestows whatever on whoever He wants. So, a believer considers the superior qualities, he finds in others, as blessing of The Creator. The same is educated in The Quran, which starts with this verse "All praises be to Almighty Allah, The Lord of all the worlds". Besides this, our believed Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said " jealousy shallows faith just like fire; wood. This is the remedy which redress growing envious feeling. What about boastful people? Allah says in sureh 57: verse 23 "So that you may not be saddened upon losing something nor rejoice upon what you are given and Allah does not like any boastful, conceited person". This verse not only helps the believer quell the jealousy, but also prevents him from boasting, which, stirs jealousy in others. Hence, so much emphasis on simple and modest life has been made in Islam.
This second remedy is a game for general people.
When you are being suffered by envious people in school, college, university, or workplace, you can tackle situation by playing this game and remediate envious friends without retaliation. I have made a hypothetical story for you to learn how to apply this game.
"It was the time when keen learner was in class seven, doing great in his class and earned much respect not only from classmates but also all his teachers. Besides, he was very active in extra-curriculum activities, such as cricket and football. There was also a bunch of envious friends in his class, who left no chance to aggravate his self confidence whether they were in class or in ground. One day keen learner couldn't perform his best in the match. So, he was very disappointed in the class. Envious friends in the class took disadvantage of this situation and began hooting at him with laughter. All of keen's friends noticed and got furious at them. Before the situation got worse, keen learner, at once, stood, took a piece of chalk and drew a line on blackboard.
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and asked everyone in class to shorten it without touching. The class was silent for awhile, but one of envious friends stood laughing out loudly and said "you had been too upset and mentally disturb to enunciate your point and now you need a bed rest", then all of his accomplices began laughing out loudly. Keen learner drew another line that was longer than previous one.
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He asked again “which one is shorter?” All friends in class replied in one voice “the first one is shorter than second one“. Keen learner said “now you all got the answer how the first line is shortened without touching”, he further intensed the situation by asking “Can you figure out what is moral lesson of this game ?”. All friends including bunch of envious friends replied “No, we can't“. Keen learner explained “this game teaches us to maximize ourselves without minimizing others, to prove yourselves competent instead of proving others incompetent, and to build up your career without creating hurdles for others. If you do so, it will be best for you”. Having heard the theory of this game, All his envious friends felt remorse for what they were doing and felt no hesitation to beg him forgiveness. Thus, that critical situation was peacefully tackled.
Sum up:
We waste our precious time as well as all energies in degrading others either by backbiting or conspiracy. Whereas, we can spend the same in achieving what others have by making successive efforts.
Thank you so much for your precious time.
Comments
Truly, I smiled when I read it, but what I said was my true observation about a person who is so considerate and keeps discussing until confusion is removed, can't be envious. By the way, I really like your idea to come over such feeling by making him or her friend.
Thank you so much for sharing your idea and praying!
God bless you too.
My friend, thanks a lot for your nice comment. My friend, be sure that I have never written a fake news about me or about my life. So, I was very honest with you when I wrote at my previous comment that; every time I feel jealous from any one I be his or her friend, really this action helps me a lot, But when I wrote; Yes……..Yes………That why I became one of your friends. God bless you my friend, it was just to put a smile on your face. I hope it worked!!!!!! God bless you my friend.
I agree with you on all the points except one is that you are among those who feel jealous, it is unbelievable, at least for me after having a nice debat with you. I always seek for such member whom I may have a battle of wit without disrespecting his or her self-esteem. My old friends are my witness (^_^).
There are many kinds of jealousy such as professional jealousy, educational jealousy, sectarian jealousy and last one is very dangerous to all of us as learners.
Thank you so much for sharing wonderful comments.
My friend, thanks a lot for the invitation to pay extra attention to our spirit diseases, which jealousy is one of them. In fact I believe that jealousy is the most dangerous spirit disease especially when it possesses us and be the master of our actions. No one can deny that It is natural to compare ourselves with others. People tend to envy those who are close to them or who are similar to them in age, race and education. But we have to do our best to limit this feeling or otherwise it will be turned into jealous.
Finally, yes, Jealousy is a negative feeling that hurts the jealous person. It is a destructive feeling that ruin not only the spirit of the jealous person, but also his or her physical health. I am sure that with increasing a light of God in our hearts we can master and chain jealous. Guess what my friend, every time I feel jealous from any one I be his or her friend, really this action helps me a lot. Yes……..Yes………That why I became one of your friends. God bless you my friend.
You 're right, contemptuous behavior still persists
human has being taught moral as well as ethical lessons time to time, but are reluctant to practice them.
Thank you so much for passing your opinion.
Thank my friend for liking it, and passing your comments.
you are always most welcomed.
I wrote it with so much sincerity and with this intention that a single word or sentence change anyone.
Thank you so much for sharing your opinion.
My experience may bring change in their attitudes, I wish so :) this may be one of my intentions to post it here.
One thing I would like to say that because of this mischievous groups I find myself much stronger.
Thank you my friend for your kind opinion
It saddening to know that there are students who like to bully in the classroom in order to gain power. I hope your experience would teach a life's lesson to those people who like to degrade others.
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