“I do it because I can. I can because I want to. I want to because you said I could not.”
by Nancy Arroyo Perez
Have you ever felt a huge power or a huge depression inside you but you didn't know why or how have you got it? Do you feel that you like some people more than other or disaffect from other? Do the positive or negative emotions, feelings and circumstances build the positive or negative personalities? Have you ever asked yourself if you are positive or negative person? Do you feel that there are people who you don’t really have a choice as to whether they’re in your life or not and you are forced to deal with them?
Positive or negative attitude, thinking, and behaviors by you, can tell you if you are positive or negative one. You can test yourself to know what kind of person you are. But before testing, let us identify these two kinds: positive person and negative one.
Identification:
Positive People: They are successful, self-confident and optimist people who acknowledge negative circumstances, but chooses to be positive, then think wisely of how to change the situation. They are not jealous or upset by the success of others, but genuinely pleased when they see others succeed. They see the success of others as an inspiration, and use it to motivate themselves to achieve bigger and better successes. They tend to see problems, and failures as temporary, and isolated occurrences and take them personally as opportunities to learn and grow.
Negative People: They are "Energy Vampires" who are going to appear in and out of your life. Maybe they hate their job, feel frustrated, feel trapped in their life or they lack in self-esteem. Therefore, the only way they can feel powerful is by hurting others. The negative people are simply seeking to get a reaction from you. If they catch you in their web of negativity they will start draining your energy. They are a drag on your goals, your ambitions and your life and career success. They are quick to tell you what you can’t do, offer little encouragement, and hate to see you prove them wrong by succeeding. For a pessimist, there is always something to worry about, and bad events that seem to last forever. Life means fear and sadness most of the time to them. They tend to see problems, and failures as permanent things from which you can’t escape and even personalize them.
How To Save your Positive Energy
- Remember that the negative behavior is a reflection of them. It tells you what kind of people they are and what issues they may be dealing with. It's not a reflection of who you are. So, Say to yourself, "What a poor person he is to be unhappy. Maybe some of my positive energy will pass to him. If not, his pessimism has nothing to do with me". This isn't always an easy thing to do but definitely a powerful technique to save your energy from being drained.
- When they tell you some tragic story, say to them, "now tell me a positive story". By that, they may actually realize that being negative isn't the kind of person they want to be and may start to work on becoming more positive.
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- Beside, you should be grateful to these people because they're giving you the "kick" that you need to recharge your energy.
- The best advice is to hold tight to the positive people in your life and run – as fast as you can – from the negative ones.
Finally:
When we allow ourselves to think negatively we damage our potential in many ways. The worst thing is that we may be so wrapped in negativity that we cannot even see that there are ways out. On the other hand, Some people prefer to focus on positive thoughts, even though they acknowledge their negative ones. However, there is always a choice. The important point is your awareness of your own thoughts; then you can decide which type of thoughts you want to focus on. Make a conscious choice to spend time with positive, optimistic people. Avoid negative, pessimistic ones and you’ll be on your way to creating the life and career success you want and deserve.
Are You a Positive or Negative Thinker?
Click on the link below to do the test
12/02/2013
Comments
hey.... ı liked your blog.. thank you for you did such a useful search and let me think positively at the beginning of the day...bye
Hi BR!
I'm glad to be back here with you, I managed to leave you a comment at noon but time is so short to take lunch and nap and coming here at the same time. So, I now do it :)
I love the way you express your ideas with colors flying words and pictures, really enjoy spending time to read. And moreover, the idea of being positive or negative is great too! Yes, like teacher Hala said, We should be the gate-keeper to prevent all the negative- guests of our mind. You know, another important thing is :
If you think in positive ways, all the positive things will come to you and the same with negative thoughts. Just stop worry, stop all the bad things which came to our minds and turn our direction to the good thoughts.
"a frustrated minute wastes sixty seconds of happiness"
I'm a positive person and the mistakes of the negative people make me more wiser and have good experience to solve my all hard problems :)...It's very good blog Bright Rubies
Great words Bright -Rubies .Your are right that we have to avoid pessmist people;for me I am always afraid that their negative opinions and choices may affect my way of thinking or making decisions.
"Avoid negative, pessimistic ones and you’ll be on your way to creating the life and career success you want and deserve."
@Hala, thank you very for your kind words, they inspired me:)
We have to be the gate-keeper to our own mind and choose carefully what goes in, if we think noble thoughts which inspire and motivate us ,I think we will be positive thinkers .
The person who sends out positive thoughts activates the world around him positively and draws back to himself positive results.
I like those lines ,dear Bright :
My mind is a garden,
My thoughts are the seeds.
My harvest will be
Either flowers or weeds.
- Mel Weldon-
Thank you dear Bright -rubies for the interesting blog ! I enjoyed reading it !
wish you more and more success.
@Asma, thanks so much for your precious words. I appreciate it. I agree with you that the differences in whether the person is positive or negative is bigger than the differences in their attitudes.
Concierge himself, bright?!!
Oh!
Wise!!
You will have all grapes for all years ahead!
:)
Dear Bright-rubies,
Your blog is very inspiring, Thanks for sharing with us.
It's good to be positive thinker, because Negative thoughts, words and attitude bring up negative and unhappy moods.
"There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative."
I got : 52 :)
@Beverly Stout, I guessed that you are a positive thinker without knowing about your result :) great points, well done in solving problems.