Marriage is a divine order to which compliance, a man and a woman, after a mutual agreement, are engaged in a marital life, so as to constitute a complete family. The marriage is the only remedy to curb growing fornication, which is not only a social disease, but also a serious punishable sin in view of Islamic laws here and hereafter. So, it should be celebrated with as much simplicity as possible. On the other hands, many unIslamic ceremonies, which cause extravagance, have been crept into it just to exhibit the wealth. Such practice has made a simple rite very complicated.
The ceremonies of marriage in Pakistan have gone to that extent where no an appropriate example across the world is found. There are so many wired ceremonies, one of them, I would like to tell you with the permission of my compatriots is shoes stealing ceremony, which is more common in my home city, Karachi. Imagine, when a young couple turns a new leave with such ceremony, how will the rest life go by? Anyway.
I guess you might be confused or thinking that shoes stealing ceremony means shoes of all participants in the marriage are stolen. Not at all! Don't worry about it. The shoes of only groom are stolen by bridal sisters for handsome amount of money as a ransom when the groom with his family, relatives and friends arrives at bridal house at the time of Nikha. I have no idea about its origin.
We all know the thief never foretells us what he plots to take away from us, but here the groom already knows each and every thing that he is going to be cheated. So, he keeps extra money in his pocket to exchange it for shoes. But all grooms in Pakistan are not as gentle as I mentioned above as an example. Some grooms are over-smart who persuade their friends to hide new shoes from bridal sisters. So, they replace new shoes by old ones to deceive them (bridal sisters) However, the groom, despite applying all his tricks, has to be hoaxed by them at the end on the name of fun.
Personally, I detest such ceremonies which may sometimes bring about conflict between two parties at a very sensitive stage when destiny of two lives is being decided and celebration can be marred by involvement of ego from either side of two parties. By the way, what would you do if you were a groom facing such situation?
Please do share your tricks.
PS: This ceremony is called "shoes hiding ceremony". However, I wrote it "shoes stealing ceremony" to make it more interesting.
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Thank you MaYa for your supportive comments
It's out of question, arif,,, :D Of course it's only their thought.
The egg here I mean that wasting food, mubadzir, bro...
Agree with you in removing weird or unnecessary ceremonies. :)
Are thoughts of both groom and bride are united by breaking an egg with their forehead? :)
Stepping on the egg and washing his foot is the only rite which favours groom. :)
Putting aside shoes hiding ceremony, there are many weird and unnecessary ceremonies which need sufficient amount of money to celebrate. My concern is that new couple can save money by minimizing such trivial things in marriage so as to spend it in other progressive purpose, which can bring both of them closer to each other.
Thank you so much for leaving your valuable comments.
Here are so many weird tradition, and still being done by some people. But I would like to tell you about one that I really feel it's nonsense.
There is a tradition that two couple will broke an egg with their forehead. It is a symbol of uniting thoughts. Another is stepping on the egg until it's broken that is done by the groom, then the bride wash his feet. It is a symbol of responsibility in a family. Don't you think that it's really nonsense?.. :D
I don't think that doing the unimportant thing should be continued in tradition. :)
Thanks for sharing. The "shoes stealing ceremony" in your country are so annoying, I guess. :D
When the boy noticed his slippers were missing, he was the only person who was suffered from mischief of others, but when such mischievous practice is carried out on an occasion where families of two parties involved can cause any harm for the new couple. Though such case is rare to be seen, yet precaution is always better.
Thank you so much for sharing your real experience.
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